July 31, 2016
I wanted to write a post yesterday, not only the promotional post for my book. However, with everything going on – my mother’s birthday, trouble with the cover for print, Rex’s boredom and Zoey’s playful nature yesterday, it was a little difficult to write anything.
Besides my crime novels, which I enjoy writing, I started writing romance with a little of adventure and humor peppered here and there, even though lately, looking around me, I have had some doubt that true lasting love still exists.
I’ve thought that maybe people are in too much rush to find their happiness right now and, consequently, they settle for the immediate without too much thought of what might come along. There’s also the possibility that maybe people want just to have some fun to counterbalance the harshness of life or the ugliness of the reality pictured by the news. Maybe many are only driven by the principles depicted by Sex and the City, although in my opinion, there’s a lot of sadness and disappointment in that film, even though it doesn’t pop up at first sight. Anyway, you can take your pick.
Yesterday, though, I was reminded what real love is.
I went shopping – well, our variant of shopping. Having Rex in the leash, I wait outside and my daughter goes inside with a fuzzy idea about what she should buy (it seems that everything flies out of my head when we get there, and anytime I prepare a list, I forget the list at home. So, I let her choose.) It is exhilarating to see what’s in her bags when she comes out of the store. There’s never disappointment but sometimes there’s a huge surprise. More important, rarely what’s in the bag could help with cooking dinner without a lot of cleverness and applying the Romanian saying “To make bricks without straw”.
Anyway, waiting outside with Rex means that I have plenty of time to observe the people milling around and yesterday, I had plenty of material to pick from: from the guy who was talking on his cell phone, which was on speaker, because he used the screen to groom his mustache, to the old couple that had come shopping and after shopping stopped outside the store for a while, just to hold each other.
They are actually the subject which I had in mind when I started writing this post. Around eighty, both of them weighed down by age, they had that air of the couples that had spent decades together. It was refreshing to see that after half a century – they both were around ninety - they still felt the need to hold each other and whisper things meant only for their ears.
That refreshed my belief that something else might exist besides the instant gratification that seems to be the purpose of most relationships I’ve seen lately.
That being said, it doesn’t mean that a relationship that starts on a flirty note and seems like just a lot of fun can’t evolve into something meaningful. Surprisingly, most of the time people are taken aback to see that exactly the relationships labeled as: “it will never last” are the ones that last in the end. Probably because of the contradictions or differences in temper and sometimes in beliefs, such relationships may pass the test of time. The two protagonists don’t have the time to get bored one with the other because they are too involved in the relationship and because surprises come too fast one after the other. Sometimes, if one of the two is a pain in the neck for the other that might give an occupation to the partner.
I’m far from an expert. I can speak only about what I’ve seen during the time. Of course, there are relationships where the two partners think the same and behave in the same way, and of course, these relationships can last as well. However, most of them fall into a sort of routine. The relationship still exists, under a certain form, the feelings are mutual but there’s no spark whatsoever. Without the spark, everything goes on as a lazy river, too fat to move. It’s like that Merry-Go-Round which I mentioned in a previous post.
But imagine a relationship like the roller-coaster! Scary! Thrilling! Your heart is about to jump out of your chest! Nonetheless, how many of you, after a scary ride, didn’t go back to try it again? Just asking!
See you again – I hope!
Born sometime in the past century, living in the 21st century.
Sometimes I have good ideas... (what do you think?)
Sometimes fascinating guests!
(that for sure!)
Sometimes I have to share some of my frustrations,..
(not too tempting, huh!)
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